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Messages from your best counsellor... !

What may your vagina be trying to tell you?

I'm not physically ready for sex! I need more time/knowledge/trust/ lube/information/ precautions!

I want to test your partner.. if 2night I don't open up as you wish, I want to see how he takes it, if he respects u or gets mad at u. Thank me!

How can you want me to open with a man when u never even look at me or say my name out loud. Please get to know me before asking me to open up to others..

I dont like the partner you chose! Who is this guy anyway?? Heís no good for you.. Donít get fooled. Don't force him in me! Thereís a reason if Iím closing. Get the hint!

I don't want to work under this mental pressure to perform! I'm having stage fright!! And you keep telling me bad things too!

Hello? mind? heart? are you sure you really want to have sex tonight?? cause I don't think so! Will you take me seriously for once? I don't want to have sex tonight!!"

Do you have any idea how many women are being raped, right now, in your very country? Are you doing anything to help my sister-vaginas live a life free of violence? Well, I wonít open up so u can just forget about it.

Ouch, that hurt! If you keep having sex this way or let him have his way, Iím gonna get really hurt.. Since youíre not listening to me, then you leave me no choice but shutting down.

I am not ready to have a child, at all. No contraceptive is 100% safe. Don't get me pregnant..!

Iím so confused and scared about sex, I mean, mom says it's bad before marriage, God says that too, my boyfriend says heíll leave me if I donít do it, my best friend says sex is beautiful, I read that my hymen will breakÖ Please reassure me a bit!

Mmhh...I think the ovaries are not feeling too good... There may be some cyst near here.. Since they can't get the message through to you, Iím ringing a bell to get your attention before itís too late. You need to go see a doctor!

Historically, vaginas have been told to shut up ALL THE TIME, they have been subtly taught they shouldnít be heard nor seen..

They should be used, not understood..
They should open and close at a maleís command, not at their own will.

Itís small wonder that women have suffered from vaginismus all over the world. Now, vaginismus gives you a chance to LISTEN to something ancient, profound and mythical.

If you feel sheís a complete stranger for you, you may want to check the Vulvar Anatomy section and get to know her.
Sometimes fixing vaginismus is not worth half the happiness and self-confidence that a long-lasting friendship with your vagina will give you.

So get in vaginaís shoes, it can make a world of difference to finally listen to her.

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DISCLAIMER: This site is not designed to provide medical advice. All material is gathered from the experience of hundreds of women who experienced vaginismus but it is for information only and is not intended to be a substitute for professional or medical advice, diagnosis, and treatment. Please review the information contained on vaginismus-awareness-network.org carefully and confer with a health care professional specialized in vaginismus, as needed.