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19. FINDING THE MOTIVATION
This is a crucial issue. Unfortunately there’s no shortage of reasons to stay motivated to solve vaginismus.
Each woman will have more or less pressing ones. Chances are you will want to treat this and fast.
But how many of these motivations do not come from you but from the society or people around you instead?
There is a real risk that as long as the motivation to heal is pressured upon you from the outside, solving vaginismus will actually be somewhat negative.
So take a minute and before finding a motivation to dilate, see who or what's pressuring you to find that movitation. It may be enlightening.
In general, there shouldn't be a big rush to solve vaginismus. Whether you are single or with a partner, the journey to get your vagina on your side should be a pleasant one and nobody else should be worth stressing yourself out over this. If someone loves you, they won't care how fast you'll be able to have intercourse, they'll just care for you to keep shining as a person.
On the other hand, you may feel a complete lack of motivation, you may be too depressed or pessimistic to even try.
It's understandable that the thought of failing (or of failing again, for those who tried this process unsuccessfully in the past) may be overwhelming, or you may have just lost a partner and think "what's the point?"
True, there may be no point, but that's the trick. There shouldn't really be a point, a goal...
I think you would miss out on a great chance to get to know your body and yourself, if you decided to avoid going through this journey, but I'd be the first one to tell you to go do something else that makes your eyes sparkle, if the thought of dilating makes you feel worse off.
Also, please remember there is no need to dilate every day, so don't worry if you don't feel like it for a month or more. You may read a success story from a young woman who only had about 10 sessions, and often weeks apart one from the other, but who only dilated when she totally felt like it and for her own benefit and to teach her body she could be trusted (but also to learn to trust her body too).
So, stop dilating if you feel like stopping. Or dilate for yourself if the person you were doing it for was so shallow not to see the great journey you could have been through together. Just please, whatever you decide, try to pursue what makes your eyes sparkle! Ask yourself what that is and go do it if you can!
Life is your chance to shine, if you don't feel like going through this process now, you can put it off till a better moment or you can put it off forever.
People tried it more than once but only succeded the second time around or only when they were truly ready for it. Timing is everything
But don't place a timer on your vagina...
Choose what makes you feel less stressed and what makes you shine..
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