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YOUR STEP-BY-STEP DILATING GUIDE!



14 MAKE IT FUN


Dilating can be very boring or feel very cold and “clinical” for some women. If you feel that you want to spice things up a little or make dilating more fun, you may try the following ideas:


1. NAME YOUR FRIENDS!
Whether you use fingers, candles or sets of 4 plastic dilators, it could be fun to give each a name (your favourite male actors, the seven dwarfs, the names of your ex-boyfriends who don’t know what they’ve missed, you name it!). It makes things more personal and fun and can help you see the dilators as less threatening and cold.

2. Involve your partner and make dilating part of your foreplay activities.

3. Have an orgasm before (or while dilating), or have great fantasies :)

4. If you like reading while dilating, there are great books of delicate erotic poetry which are both sensual, loving and can put you 'in the mood' without being gross or too graphic. Some good ones we feel like suggesting are 2 books edited and adviced by the writer of great delicate books on sexual healing after sexual abuse, so you can be pretty sure the poems in there are all pretty tasteful and yet sensual:
PASSIONATE HEARTS

INTIMATE KISSES



5. Make a chart and reward yourself with a golden star or something more substantial each time you have a dilating session or move up a dilator.

6. Sing a Mantra! Say something positive about your vagina and repeat it.

7. JAZZ IT UP! Make a tape of sexy, sensual music for you to listen to while dilating. Each one will like different songs, but we’ll just give you some ideas here:

- SECRET GARDEN by Bruce springsteen
- BROWN SKIN by India Arie
- CHOCOLATE by Kylie Minogue
- LOVE IS STRONGER THAN PRIDE by Sade
- SEXUAL HEALING by Ben Harper
- AMAZING LIFE by Jem

- THE SEA by Morcheeba
- Hindu hymns, New Age music, classical music, sounds of animals.. They could all work. You're the DJ!





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DISCLAIMER: This site is not designed to provide medical advice. All material is gathered from the experience of hundreds of women who experienced vaginismus but it is for information only and is not intended to be a substitute for professional or medical advice, diagnosis, and treatment. Please review the information contained on vaginismus-awareness-network.org carefully and confer with a health care professional specialized in vaginismus, as needed.