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There's NO best position for women with vaginismus. You will often read elsewhere that woman on top is easier on women with vag. because they can control the insertion and the depth of the penetration and the thrusting.
That makes sense of course, but then again some women do not like to feel so exposed and in control and won't be able to relax and let go in that position, so it will not work for them.

Some women prefer a side-by-side position for instance, since the penis there only enters half-way and strokes are not deep.
So what we can suggest is that you forget about what people say and find the position she is the most comfortable in.

Then, whatever position you have chosen, what seems to help women with vaginismus, or who recently solved it, is to have intercourse with short and gentle strokes.
Many women report that they find the natural action of an intact penis to be more comfortable for them.
That may be because circumcised men lacking their foreskin will need more friction to feel satisfied and may thrust more and be a bit rougher. Of course also circumcised men CAN have i/c with gentle and short strokes, if they try to, but it might not be as natural for them. Or it might not be as satisfying for them. At the same time, it is also true that non-circumcised men can be just as rough at intercourse, so it's hard to generalize.

All men are perfect and lovable just the way they are, of course. Especially cause they didn't ask to be circumcised, just like women with vag. didn't choose to have it, but people of either gender who decide to do sexual healing work are courageous. They deserve encouragement and support.

As women go through the process of healing from vaginismus, there is a process that some men go through that has some similarities when restoring their foreskin.

Men who were circumcised without their consent, who decide to grow a new foreskin, often discover that the process is profoundly healing on a psychological level. It is also a long process that requires patience and effort. And men who have been through the process feel very pleased that they did it and they say that they have more sensation and pleasure from intercourse.

We do not believe as a man you SHOULD be under any pressure to take this step, nor we believe you are jeopardizing your relationship if you are circumcised but this is an option you have, and you may want to consider it with your partner too, so if you would like to know more about foreskin restoration, here are some links we hope you'll find helpful:




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DISCLAIMER: This site is not designed to provide medical advice. All material is gathered from the experience of hundreds of women who experienced vaginismus but it is for information only and is not intended to be a substitute for professional or medical advice, diagnosis, and treatment. Please review the information contained on vaginismus-awareness-network.org carefully and confer with a health care professional specialized in vaginismus, as needed.